I got some kind of realisation about how you should behave well
I think, it’s important to have good image in front of people (ie : colleagues), but there is something more important than that. It’s the respect of the people (especially if you work closely with them).
Clear and effective communication are keys to achieve this goal.
I learn that people tend to defend themselves when situation gets wrong.
Maybe trying to not take any sides is also a bad idea because either side started to question if you are with them or with the other side.
Healthy competition will encourage growth, but playing victim creates disaster. It’s one of the good way to lose the respect that you earn after many years of hard work and determination.
Can you afford to lose it?
It’s like a glass. Once it’s broken, it will never stay the same, even if you try so damn hard to fix it and even if it looks very very similar to what it used to be. It’s not.
Well, lessons are learnt the hard way and some reality hits you when you least expect it. Stick to what you believe, to what you value, to your principles. If it’s outside your control, accept it. Don’t let your emotion control you because you might regret what you did later.
Take a deep breath.
You learnt the lesson. And that’s the most important part.
Being nice or kind won’t always give you a result that you want.
Sometimes, people keep on being rude despite of the fact that you’ve tried to be kind.
It’s their choice to be that way.
It’s your choice how you want to face them.
Their anger towards you don’t reflect yourself, it reflects their insecurity.
If they are playing victim to you, it’s not because you deserve to take all the blame.
It might be because they are feel threaten by you.
And they want to bring you down.
Keep it cool.
Keep being you.
Stick to what you believe, to what you value, to your principles.
That’s what make you different to them.
Don’t let them/the circumstances change you to be someone/something that you don’t want to be.
Every person you meet is fighting their own battle.
And so do you.
Everyone struggles.
And that’s why they want to save their self the first.
It’s normal as a human being,
But please remember.
It’s never your job to please everybody.
You can try your best to be kind and do good.
But some people are not worth your respect.
Or some people can’t appreciate/be grateful for what you’ve done for them.
And that’s their nature.
Don’t let it upset you.
You show your colour and how they show theirs,
It’s their call.
Live is about how you live your life.
Better not to mind them.
Live your own.
Mind your own business.
