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I got some kind of realisation about how you should behave well

I think, it’s important to have good image in front of people (ie : colleagues), but there is something more important than that. It’s the respect of the people (especially if you work closely with them).

Clear and effective communication are keys to achieve this goal.

I learn that people tend to defend themselves when situation gets wrong.

Maybe trying  to not take any sides is also a bad idea because either side started to question if you are with them or with the other side.

Healthy competition will encourage growth, but playing victim creates disaster. It’s one of the good way to lose the respect that you earn after many years of hard work and determination.

Can you afford to lose it?

It’s like a glass. Once it’s broken, it will never stay the same, even if you try so damn hard to fix it and even if it looks very very similar to what it used to be. It’s not.

 

Well, lessons are learnt the hard way and some reality hits you when you least expect it. Stick to what you believe, to what you value, to your principles. If it’s outside your control, accept it. Don’t let your emotion control you because you might regret what you did later.

Take a deep breath.

You learnt the lesson. And that’s the most important part.

Being nice or kind won’t always give you a result that you want.

Sometimes, people keep on being rude despite of the fact that you’ve tried to be kind.

It’s their choice to be that way.

It’s your choice how you want to face them.

Their anger towards you don’t reflect yourself, it reflects their insecurity.

If they are playing victim to you, it’s not because you deserve to take all the blame.

It might be because they are feel threaten by you.

And they want to bring you down.

Keep it cool.

Keep being you.

Stick to what you believe, to what you value, to your principles.

That’s what make you different to them.

Don’t let them/the circumstances change you to be someone/something that you don’t want to be.

 

Every person you meet is fighting their own battle.

And so do you.

Everyone struggles.

And that’s why they want to save their self the first.

It’s normal as a human being,

But please remember.

It’s never your job to please everybody.

You can try your best to be kind and do good.

But some people are not worth your respect.

Or some people can’t appreciate/be grateful for what you’ve done for them.

And that’s their nature.

Don’t let it upset you.

You show your colour and how they show theirs,

It’s their call.

Live is about how you live your life.

Better not to mind them.

Live your own.

Mind your own business.

 

Forgive yourself and Move on

Forgive yourself

For things that you didn’t do,

But you wish you could

 

Forgive yourself

For leaving people that you love

Because you don’t trust yourself that you can love them

The way they loved you

 

Forgive yourself

For your past mistakes

That you wish you you could go back

And fixed it

But you can’t

 

Forgive yourself

For not spending time

With people that you love

Because at that time,

You felt like you didn’t want to do it

 

Forgive yourself

For not being kind

To other people

And especially to yourself

When you have to

 

Forgive yourself

And move on. 

What would you say to your 20-year-old self?

Dear my 20-year old self, please BE HAPPY, BE COURAGEOUS, BE BRAVE to try and to take risks. You will only regret the things that you didn’t do. If you do things and you fail, it’s a lesson.

DON’T TAKE LIFE SO SERIOUSLY. You won’t get out alive. Enjoy the time that you have. Meet people and have another point of views about life. See the life from other view.

BE CURIOUS to always eager to learn. There are so much things that you don’t know in this life. LISTEN to others, but you can always have your own opinion. Sometimes you can agree to disagree. The most important thing is to always be the open-minded person. DON’T LIMIT YOURSELF/YOUR BELIEF. See through the other eyes.

ALWAYS BE GRATEFUL for everything, Good or bad, it happens for a reason. You might not find it straight away, but may be later. Even if you don’t figure out the reason, it’s okay.

BE RESPONSIBLE for your thoughts, words, and action. THINK before you doing something, especially if it’s included other person in it. Because people is the most complex creature on earth. They have their own mind and that’s why it’s important to be careful when you deal with them.

You DON’T NEED TO CARE ABOUT EVERYTHING. Focus on the things that you can control. ALWAYS TRY TO HAVE POSITIVE THOUGHTS.

BE KIND to yourself first and to others next. REMEMBER you are your longest commitment and responsibility. Always try to put yourself first. It might means that you’re being selfish. But you won’t be able to do good to others, if you don’t/can’t treat yourself well in the first place. REMEMBER THIS.

GO OUT and TRY TO FIND YOUR PURPOSE, the meaning of your life. Why do you live? Try to seek for the answer of that question.

Jay Shetty said "Passion is what keep you alive, but purpose is what can you give to others."