Cintai Nasibmu (Sebuah Pengenalan Prinsip Filosofi Teras)

Hari ini pertama kalinya aku mendengarkan Podcast dari Greatmind di suatu platform. Greatmind adalah suatu Podcaster yang memberikan insight terkait inspirasi, advokasi, dan aspirasi dari para pembicara yang didatangkan. Podcast ini saya dengar dari platform Spotify.  

Di Podcast pertamanya, Greatmind membicarakan tentang buku Filosofi Teras yang dibawakan oleh  penulis buku tersebut yang bernama Henry Manampiring. Melalui siaran ini, aku pun baru menyadari bahwa Filosofi Teras adalah suatu landasan pemikiran yang didasarkan dari ajaran Stoisisme.

Stoisisme sendiri merupakan pandangan yang berlandaskan pada ajaran bahwa “Kebahagiaan itu berasal dari dalam diri. Kau hanya memiliki kontrol penuh atas dirimu, TIDAK pada hal lainnya.”

Hal - hal yang bisa kau kontrol, misalnya : pikiranmu, perkataanmu, dan tindakanmu. Hal lainnya merupakan sesuatu yang tidak dapat kau kontrol dan sebaiknya tidak kau dasarkan kebahagiaanmu pada hal tersebut.

Selain itu, untuk hal - hal yang tidak bisa kau kontrol, terimalah. Terima emosi yang kau miliki dan jalani sebaik yang kau bisa. Mencoba melawan perasaan yang ada atau mencoba mengubah keadaan yang ada dapat membuat keadaanmu semakin buruk.

Tentu saja kau berharap keadaan bisa menjadi lebih baik, dan hal tersebut tidak salah. Kau bisa memulainya dari dirimu. Cobalah temukan akar dari emosi atau perasaan yang ingin kau ubah dan cari solusi akan hal tersebut. Niscaya, kau akan menemukan jalan yang terang untuk mencapai tujuanmu.

The Science of Well-Being

                                      

I’m currently learning and attending course about “The Science of well-being”, hosted by Dr. Laurie Santos. I learn it from Coursera and I found this platform attractive and Coursera give great free courses until this May, in case you’re interested or need activities to do during this sty at home period.

So, it’s my second week to attend the online course.

At the first week, we learnt and took time to measure our own score of happiness through some Quizzes. I tried all the tests and found out that I had a pretty not good grades (lol). We’re going to re-take the quiz at the end of the course and let’s so if there is any changes in that.

At week two, Dr. Santos gave lecture about how things are not actually make us happy. It based on the researches that have been conducted since long time ago. Basicly, good grades, good job, good relationship, good-looking appearance or losing weight don’t really influence our happiness.

Some factors that are found to influence happiness are Genetic (50%), Life Circumstances (10%), and Action/Thoughts (40%).

We can’t change or really do anything to the genetic or life circumstances, so you’d better focus on your action/thoughts. But many people seeks happiness at the wrong direction, so it’s even harder to attain that goal.

PERMA Quiz Result

Example of the Quiz

We can build happiness through simple habits. But we need to do it CONSISTENTLY. And the simple habits that are recommended from this session are Savouring and Gratitude. Savouring means being fully present to what we are doing and genuinely enjoy it. Give yourself time to appreciate the books that you’re reading or the activity that you’re doing. And it’s stated that there are some techniques to enhance this savouring moments such as sharing the experience with another person, thinking about how lucky you are to enjoy such an amazing moment, keeping a souvenir/photo of the moment and it’s highly recommended to spare 5-10 minutes of your time every night to write a gratitude journal and write down 5 things that make you become grateful that day.

Besides savouring, gratitude is a habit that must be developed. Gratitude is positive emotional state  in which someone appreciates and recognizes what they have in life. This habit is important to do as if oneself doesn’t feel grateful, they will keep on wanting for more and can’t be happy even though they already have more than what they need. In this course, there is one study where people with different salary were studied about their financial situation and if they feel that their salary is enough for living. Based on that research, it turns out that they don’t feel enough and want more salary, even though one of them has earned more than what the average person usually earn. 

This is why gratitude is important in order to reach happiness.

As I mentioned above, I just attended week two for the courses, so I will end the story here and may be I’ll come back and tell more stories later :)

If you’re interested to take the courses, here is the link.

How’s your stay at home moment guys? I hope we can get through this tough moment and this too shall pass.

Stay happy, healthy and maintain yourself! See ya the other time :)  

Conflict Management Resolution

Today, I listened to a Podcast from Inspigo, the speaker was Mr. Fajar Anugerah, a psychology-background speaker. He is from Kinara.id. He talked about “Conflict Management”.

Conflict is caused by difference, either it’s difference in Point of View, in preference or anything.

Even though conflict is usually seen as a bad indicator in relationship, but if the parties are able to manage/resolve the conflict well, we can gain the benefits from it. This theory called desirable difficulties.  

In this podcast, Mr. Fajar Anugerah explained two strategies of how to resolve the conflict. The first solution is from the “person” perspective, how important the person in the conflict/with whom we have the conflict. The second solution is based on the “issue” itself. How important is this issue for you.

	Important	Not important
Person	- Compromising - Collaborate	Avoidance/Withdraw
Issue	Conflicting	Accommodating

That’s the table that I drew based on the explication I heard from Mr. Fajar Anugerah. Let me explain it to you, hopefully, it could help you better understand the topic :)

First,

If you have conflict with important person (ie : your boss) and the issue is also important for you, you have two option to solve the conflict :

1. By compromising : You both compromise about the issue/you compromise with your boss, so the conflict can be resolved in peace.

2. By collaboration : You give all the option possible to your boss (the cause and the effect) and the both of you make collaboration to resolve the problem.

Second,

If the issue important and the person with whom you have conflict means nothing to you. For example, you go to a concert (the important issue) and the someone cut off the line (the person), fight for yourself. This solution is called “conflicting”.

Third,

If the person is important for you, whereas the issue is not, you can choose to accommodate. For example, you go to the restaurant with your mother/father-in law(the person), he wants to eat chicken together with you. At the moment, you don’t really feel like you want to eat, but because you respect your in law, you accommodate their will.

Fourth,

If the person and the issue don’t matter to you, avoid it or withdraw yourself for this unnecessary thing. Better find/do something else and save yourself from unnecessary problems.

Having listened to this podcast, I found this view is interesting and applicable, that’s why I want to share it with you and hopefully, I could help you to resolve your conflict well and to choose the battle wisely.

We don’t always need to win every battle that we’re in, but you must know when it’s important for you, you must fight for it.

I hope you can learn something from what I shared and if you have any comment or thoughts, please don’t hesitate to leave it on the comment section.

Always be happy, healthy and maintain you beauty! See you the other time :D

Good Soul

After many thoughtful thought,

Many videos that I watched,

I come to a realization that how people behave is based on how they were raised

We all have different backgrounds,

Different ways how we are treated by our family when we were a child

And most of the time, we’re influenced by this

People always have something deep inside their mind and heart because of their upbringing.

It could be the rooted belief of family thing,

The desire to have this family thing because they see happiness at their home

Or the scary thought of having one because they experienced the bad side of broken family.

Everyone has different story that we might not know.

They hide their feelings very well.

They try to look good in front of other, even though they feel really broken and desperate inside

It’s not easy to read someone’s history.

Dear myself,

I know you did many wrongs to other people in the past,

But you still have chances to correct your behaviour,

If you are given any chances to do good and be kind,

Please try to do that.

I know,

It’s not easy for you to open up to people

To trust them

But at least,

Give it a try please,

To do good and to be good.

It could be a good thing for your soul.

Quote from Sophia Bush (taken from Google)

Please try to believe,

As you have experienced it,

There are still many good souls here in this world,

So please,

Try to be part of that.

I know you can. 

Top 3 Innisfree Products

Hello guys,

How are you?

The 2019 has passed and i wish you a good year in 2020 :D

So, i'll start this year by introducing my favourite beauty products from INNISFREE, a Korean-brand that i love.

So, basicly, INNISFREE is a natural brand that focuses on beauty products, they have many lines for various skin concerns and the most well-know line are the Green Tea, the Jeju Volcanic, and the Orchid. As quoted from the site :

innisfree is a natural brand that shares the benefits of nature
from the pristine island of Jeju for healthy beauty
and pursues an eco-friendly green life to preserve the balance of nature

(http://www.innisfree.com/id/en/BrandPage.do?pageName=brand_concept) 

And based on what i learn, what differentiate Innisfree from the other brand is they take the resources mainly from Jeju Island. And Innisfree also claims that their products are eco-friendly. So, i really like the concept of this brand and this is one of the reason why i fall in love with this brand. 

Personally, i think Innisfree is a drug-store brand that has a good quality of product and i have tried some of their products. And i never experience any breakouts or problems while using Innisfree's product. Some products are really nice for my skin and the other that i've tried doesn't give me any bad effect, so it's just so so for me. 

And in this blog, i want to tell you the Top 3 Innisfree Products that i've been using and it gives me the very nice experience and i'd love to repurchase the products. Here are the products : 

1. Camellia Essential Hair Oil Serum 

Yup, eventho' Innisfree is very famous for their skincare, but i instantly fall in love to this Hair Oil from the first time i use it. 

It has a super nice scent and it makes my hair more easy to comb and it smoothens my hair texture and all the benefits to the hair. I really love this product. 

I bought this product from Innisfree Store in Jakarta and it only costs IDR 150.000,00. 

So, it's really worth the price in my opinion. 

Camellia Hair Oil Serum

2. Innisfree Mists

So, Innisfree has a couple of products that can be functioned as face mist and i'm kinda love these products. Both of these products don't have any strong scent, so if you're sensitive to fragrance, you won't feel disturb by the mists.

I've tried these two products : Green Tea Mineral Mist and Aloe Revital Skin Mist. And i love both of the products. It has a super fine mists and i could feel that my face feel fresh and moist after using the spray.  

Innsifree Green Tea and Aloe Mist

The Green Tea Mineral Mist has 2 size, there are 50ml and 100ml. I love the 50ml because it's really travel friendly.  

As for the Aloe Revital Skin Mist, it's written that it's also possible to use as hydrating toner and i did try it as hydrating toner. It makes my face feel smooth and fresh and i'm so happy to use this mist. 

Eventho' the size is bigger than the Green Tea Mineral Mist, but it's not heavy at all and i can still bring it anywhere when i go. So, i can say that it's also travel friendly and i also love this product so much. 

I bought these mists at store and i think the price is around IDR 75000 to IDR 150000.( Unfortunately, I forgot the exact price of the product). 

3. Super Volcanic Clay Mousse Mask

Jeju Volcanic Mousse Mask

To be honest, the Volcanic line is one of the Innisfree line that i'm not a fan of. I've tried the Super and the famouse Jeju Volcanic mask before and i wasn't happy. 

So, to my surprise i bought this product and i feel happy about it. 

The texture is different with the other Volcanic Masks and it's not as dry as the other products from this line (FYI : I have a dry-combination skin) . 

So, this product has mousy texture (like its name) and it doesn't give me the very tight sensation after using it. It would be drying if i use it for long time (the instruction said that you can put the product 10 to 15 minutes, but i usually only put it on my face for 7 to 10 minutes). 

And the very good part about this product is, it cleanse my pores. After using it, i can tell the difference in my face (as it also works as mild exfoliator). My face looks brighter and clearer after using it and i'm so happy with the product. 

A bit downside (i don't know if it can be considered as the minus point, but the expiration date (after you open the cap is only 9 months). It's pretty short, so you'd better use it regularly, but NOT daily.
If i'm not mistaken, i bought this for IDR 225.000/below IDR 250.000. 

 So, that are the TOP 3 Products from Innsifree that i tried and make me fall in love. I'm still using some of Innsifree Products and if there is any update on the product that i love, i'll tell you later :D

Have you tried any product from Innisfree? 

If  so, what is your favourite product? Is there any product that you dislike? 

Please tell me your opinion.

 

Thank you and have a great day :D 

Stay healthy and maintain your beauty!

Note : 

The pictures are taken with my phone.